I am very sorry for your recent losses. My mother transitioned seven years ago, and there are still days when I expect her to be around if only to share some small thing with her. But you will see that the pain of grief will eventually shift enough to allow your mother's lasting love to shine through in new and beautiful ways.
Thank you for sharing your very wise reflections on how to prepare for the end of life we will all face sooner or later. May blessings pour upon you in great abundance always..